Not sure what those glances, smiles and looks from the girl you fancy might mean? Hoping you have a secret admirer? Follow these steps to find out if the girl you have your heart set on really likes you.
Be bold and initiate a short chat. This will help you to learn those little things that will come in handy later because everyone loves knowing that someone actually listened to them and cared enough to remember the small details about them. Listen carefully and be attentive to the things she tells you so that you will have them for future reference. As you talk, notice if she gives you any signs, special words or hints.
All girls are different. Is she shy or outgoing? Does she act like this around other guys? Look at her body language. Leaning in, uncrossed legs, nervous voice, and dilated pupils (especially), are all signs she likes you.
Another sign is if she laughs at your boring, stupid jokes. (Beware: Don't use bad jokes as a test, or you'll risk looking like a comedy dork.)
She may not be able to look you straight in the eye. She might smile and laugh a lot because she is worried about giving too much away.
Check for the smile. A girl that's interested in you will usually immediately smile when you start a conversation with her. The smile may disappear quickly if she's shy, but it's hard to hide an unexpected strong emotion. If she's not romantically interested, she'll likely look at you inquisitively, but she won't express any particular interest.
Watch for signs of flirting. If she's flirting, she may be difficult to read. Gregarious girls may flirt with guys who they consider to be just friends. Uninitiated, this general interaction can sometimes be misconstrued as a crush, so know how she acts around other guys.
Be aware that some girls have no idea that they're flirting. In this case, she probably likes you a great deal since her subconscious is letting her body language do the talking.
Most girls don't like to be obvious. Girls fear rejection too.
If you fancy a girl, never make the mistake of "flirting around". If she sees you putting your arm around another girl or sees another girl hugging you, she will assume that she doesn't mean anything to you and will stop trying.
Check for random hugs, reserved mostly for you. Hugs can be a very openly and permissible affectionate way of getting closer to you and touching you without it necessarily compromising her stealthy flirting. In turn, you can go along with it if you want, or just act busy like you're late for an appointment and need to rush off.
Take notice if she "accidentally" bumps into you more often than what you'd consider the usual. This ploy is ancient and tried and true, as it's a way of touching you subtly and sizing up how responsive (and perhaps even how well toned) you are. If she finds excuses to touch you a lot, then you're probably on the right track. Act casual when she bumps into you and say "no worries" or something similar. As for touching your arm and hair in a casual but rather meaningful way, there's really no need to say anything; just lap it up graciously.
Not all girls will feel comfortable reaching out using touch. In this case, don't assume that she doesn't like you because she doesn't try to touch you. She may be too nervous to touch you yet. Don't be shy––break the touch barrier yourself.
She may also find other reasons to touch you, such as by lightly hitting you about the head, or soft punching to the body. These "one-of-the-mates" moves can be a thinly disguised way of getting closer to you without it being too evident to your friends and hers.
Observe the way in which she looks at you. If she likes you, she will tend to either hold her gaze on you for a long time or pull away immediately the moment your eyes make contact with hers. Either of these responses could mean that she likes you. If she pulls away quickly, it often means she is nervous or not ready to reveal her true intentions yet, but she still likes you. And if she holds the stare, and you believe you see responsiveness or even love in her eyes, then she is confident and she may make the first move.
Of course, some girls might just be staring or winding you up, so don't think she loves you and wants to get in touch with the real, inner you. Use the context to discern the motive.
If you happen to glance at the girl and you see her staring back at you, then this means that she likes you, although she may quickly dart her head in a different direction.
Finally, but importantly, avoid over-analyzing her behavior. Doing so may result in your becoming obsessed with simply "winning her over", rather than getting to know her as a person. Rather than investing tons of time in determining whether or not she likes you, just take opportunities every now and then to spend time with her and her friends (not excessively though, or you may appear to have no social life of your own). Basically, get to know her as a person first and foremost and maybe things can go from there later––starting off as a friend gives you a chance to connect on a more real level. Just make sure to make your intentions relatively clear (via subtle flirting), or else you may become permanently "friend-zoned".
If a girl seems standoffish and avoids you, don't necessarily give up entirely, as you may be mistaken. Instead, slow down and give her room to breathe. She may be interested in you, but is uncomfortable being courted in public, in which case you should perhaps be more subtle about expressing your interest. On the other hand, never stalk her or cause her to feel uncomfortable in any way.
Remember that the suggestions in this article are general guidance, not rules. Signs suggested in this article do not definitely mean that a girl likes you; there could be other reasons for her seemingly interested behavior, such as wanting a platonic friendship or simply getting her signals mixed up. Also, keep in mind that she may like you without doing any of these suggested outward signs.
Some girls might try the "jealous approach". This consists of flirting with your friends to make you notice them more. Be wary of these girls––they're insecure and have a lot of growing up to do when it comes to relationships and self-identity. If you really like her, pay more attention to her and try to get her alone––she might get the hint that you like her and stop trying so hard. And as much as you may want to, don't do the same thing back. Girls are more sensitive and will probably just give up on you if you flirt around.
If she seems to be purposely avoiding contact with you, beyond simply being quiet in your presence, but actively avoiding any chance to talk to you, even in contexts that aren't embarrassing (such as a group discussion), chances are she thinks you like her, and is not only not interested but is annoyed or even creeped out by your advances. It's not personal, as girls feel threatened when a guy they aren't interested in is attempting to court them. Due to the fact that boys are usually the drivers in a courtship, girls have difficulty ignoring unwanted advances. This is a cue to back off, and give her space.
